Katie 17, 2012, 9:42 am july

We agree to you… i dunno. Its difficult. I simply know personally i couldnt just let your ex glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply the person I will be.

Like i said, i wouldnt walk out my solution to attempt to keep in touch with her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.

Katie 17, 2012, 9:50 am july

As well as, just just what can you want to bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was running into one another really and truly just a coincidence?

Nadine July 17, 2012, 9:52 am

I will understand why you’ll believe that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We see the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, not the ex-BF present relationship. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can simply get a handle on her very own actions, and overlook the ex-BF calling and being irritating. Their relationship with brand new GF is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls don’t need to be buddies after all. It could you should be yet another connect to the man when it comes to LW, that is attempting to cut ties that are emotional.

Katie 17, 2012, 9:54 am july

Thats an excellent point for sure!

Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am

Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I used to be buddies with this particular band of dudes whom once had such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy i’d get really surprised, cos they seemed so normal to me on them after a couple of weeks and? Then it ended up being realised by me personally wasn’t the girls, its the inventors. In addition to girls were all people that are just normal, you realize, wished to understand if that they had a boyfriend or not…….

Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am

Yea. Its love, when that takes place enough times- what’s the denominator that is common? YOU MIGHT BE!!

I do feel harmful to this new GF. She deserves to own a guy’s attention that is full. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless dreams intensely about her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW because she is being told by the guy a couple of crap about her. Its just all incorrect. All of it.

Nadine 17, 2012, 10:09 am july

Personally I think bad on her behalf too, but she has to be aware of by herself. Its difficult being the girlfriend that is first a long relationship, but thats generally why many people go into these with their eyes spacious. Oh and the man has to“ stop droppingBut We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the real means the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:25 am july

Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands which he features a GF, he could be simply trying to find a effect each time he says it. He desires the LW to be like “well I don’t care if you do have a GF, i am going to nevertheless blow you” or “Dump that skank, and get back to me”

Katie July 17, 2012, 10:27 am

Yea, its like whenever i was in senior school and me personally and my boyfriend would split up any other week, in which he would “accidently” we would fight and get back together text me or something just so.

Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 2:45 pm july

@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight to get right straight right back together”

Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 10:05 am july

I’ve said right right here a whole lot, if the guy whips out of the word “crazy” I run one other method. I understand therefore men that are many utilize that word to hide for his or her dickish behavior.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am

We don’t understand why individuals would phone some body crazy into the beginning. I recently state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The fact on it, makes me think you may be the one that likes to stir the muck that you put a “crazy” label.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am

Additionally , you could be kinda crazy as well if you are willing to call someone crazy, wouldn’t that mean?

Rilooyah July 17, 2012, 4:44 pm

Therefore real! As soon as the” that is“crazy down, Im operating one other method. I do believe it absolutely was stated above- once you attract the crazy, the denominator that is common constantly YOU, friend.

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:21 am july

To be honest, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely could be upset about this too, and yet she continues to respond to this dudes calls despite the fact that he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of this bull shit.

Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 10:26 am

Yep! We totally agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk for this woman because your simply planning to cause drama. You must just recognize he’s not your boyfriend as well as if you nevertheless like their attention, the truth that you understand he’s got a gf is causing you to a negative man in this too.

Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july

That is a great point, you dudes. I didnt consider it like this.

So LW, them happyness, leave them alone!! Like eljay (i love you, eljay) said, someone has to be the adult in this situation if you really do respect their relationship and wish. You have to do it if he is not willing to be.

Painted_lady 17, 2012, 2:17 pm july

Amen bestie – we trust you about talking towards the gf. That knows just just what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their speaking many times, but whilst the relationship is none of the company, the fact the LW and also the girlfriend that is new met now i do believe enables the LW some leeway. That I had heard about and wanted to get along with (I’m going to assume that the LW wants that? ) and it went horribly, I might reach out and go, hey, I’m so sorry that went badly if I had been in a situation where a friend brought someone around. She does not fundamentally need certainly to state, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend happens to be saying that is___ for me and he’s the main one calling, and then he explained you had been fine using this, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly, I became underneath the impression you had been ok with your being buddies, but i recently noticed I’m perhaps maybe not fine with your being friends either, so that it’s no problem anymore. ”

Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:37 am july

I’dn’t keep in touch with the gf about any of it. If We had been dating somebody for 2 months the very last thing I would personally wish is the ex of three years reaching off to me. And simply to share with you which you respect her relationship? I might think you’re bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Simply just simply Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex you don’t would you like to hear from him for a time, then keep them alone. Genuinely they probably won’t workout them work that out themselves because you are still in the picture (which doesn’t do great things for a new relationship), but let.

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:39 am

Oh in addition, if we had been the newest gf and my bf and I also went into their ex at a club I would personally additionally need that individuals leave straight away. It is therefore uncomfortable. Everyone else pretends they can be “mature” and stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay whenever your SO’s ex appears, but why? You don’t have actually become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of 36 months.

Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am